“They said to each other, “Let us go home, for it is mealtime.” And when they went out, they parted from each other. But turning back, they met again; and when each pressed the other for the reason, they confessed their lust. And then together they arranged for a time when they could find her alone.” – Daniel 13:13-14
In SAA, it takes only two people and one share to make a meeting. The meeting between the two judges was definitely not an SAA meeting.
Rather than confessing their lust and repenting of it, rending their garments and covering themselves in ashes, they conspired together. These wicked men were willing to share her in raping her.
It’s a poorly kept secret that sometimes twelve-step meetings, including S groups, are places that people meet for sex. I have heard AA members refer to joining an S group as the “13th step” since they learn, through all their AA hook-ups, that the alcohol is merely masking their sex addiction.
S meetings often have a disclaimer that says something like, “meetings are not the place to find a sexual partner.” It is also advised that you do not choose a sponsor to whom you are sexually attracted.
Earlier in the chapter we read that the judges were full of shame. Instead of bearing their shame to one another, they buried it. If we do not bear our shame to one another at our meetings, they can become a dangerous place that lead us to act out rather than recover.
To avoid this, we must commit ourselves to rigorous honesty. We must be willing to be introspective and find our character defects so that God can remove them, and we must then share them at our meetings and in the Sacrament of Confession!